First, let me start by saying upfront that I am no innocent. I am both the victim and the perpetrator of the things that I am addressing in this post. Naturally, it’s my first hand experience that inspires me to write about it.
So here it goes: One of the worst things you could say to a sister is, “I told you so.”
Besides reinforcing our own ego, this comment has no value. You are likely saying it to a sister who is down and while yes, you saw it coming, “I told you so” is harsh to the energy body of a woman. If that sentence flies out of your mouth like it used to fly out of mine, please do the entire world a favor and press delete.
Now that we have flushed out the worst, on to the best: One of the best things you could say to a sister is, “Trust your intuition.” Whew! Did someone just open a window? I feel the most beautiful breeze. I love that sentence - it’s a world changer.
Currently there is a HUGE rift between women and their intuition. This rift is causing all sorts of internal and external chaos.
Intuition is an inner knowing that guides your decisions. It is interdependent with truth, desire, self-love, and emotions, but is none of these things. Although it is often confused with intense emotions, it is actually the sweetest, subtlest and CALMEST of experiences.
We all know it well in hindsight when we are experiencing the repercussions of not listening to it. How many times have you thought, “I totally saw this coming”? I have found myself in some major doozies because I blew past my intuition.
All big decisions come with big emotions and this is where sisterhood is key. To help us sift through our emotional charge so we can access our intuition, we need to look at the different scenarios and dump our fears and tears with our sisters. At the end of this process there is only one thing to say, “Trust your intuition.”
When you tell a sister to trust her intuition you are reconnecting her to a well of inner-knowing though more importantly you are cultivating self-love. If you don’t love yourself, you won’t trust yourself. And the reverse is true, if you feel like you can’t trust yourself, you will have a hard time loving yourself. To listen and trust your intuition is a beautiful act of self-love. When you decide from this place, you can’t lose.
I got the best wink from the universe when I was crafting this post. This email arrived in my inbox. You’re right Danielle, I do.
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September 19, 2010
This one is really for the guys – feel free to pass it on.
I am fascinated by what makes or breaks relationships. There are many variables: values, personality, physical attractiveness, and chemistry, to name a few. While I ultimately believe everyone is on their divine path, I can’t help but notice this pattern: super cool, dynamic, high priestess, mega-goddess marries a wonderful guy. This great man is funny, charismatic, loves to play, is hardworking, and a good provider. They have one to three kids and somewhere between seven to thirteen years into the relationship she begins to feel unhappy. She begins mentioning therapy – maybe they go, maybe not. Maybe they have long discussions, argue, and fight. Then one day she wakes up and feels completely done. When she connects with her soul, she sees no alternative, they must separate. She asks for a divorce. Dude is devastated, blind-sided, completely confused. He cannot understand what went wrong and how she could leave.
I know about ten couples this happened to, including my parents. I am not saying I know for sure why these relationships ended as these situations are very complex. Though from my current viewpoint, I do see something that every one of these woman would attest to. This great guy and father of her children simply did not see her. I believe she became so deficient in Vitamin See that breaking up her family structure was less painful than staying in the relationship. This is how powerful and important Vitamin See is for women. Without it, we feel malnourished, empty and alone.
Vitamin See is so simple but our culture is void of any direct teachings on the phenomena. This void leaves women with a nagging feeling that something is missing and leaves men lost at sea with what to do about it.
Seeing and loving someone can be achieved through appreciation, recognition, and adoration. All of these behaviors rock and anyone would get major Vitamin See points if they upped them. BUT if you really want to be the King of Vitamin See, like slam dunk, out of the park, touchdown, here is the not-so-secret recipe: Every (EVERY) woman has a unique combination of gifts that create incredible amounts of love for the planet. Find out what they are (just ask her) and write them down. At least once a week, tell her how cool one of them is and what an honor it is to be married to such a powerful woman.
That’s it. So simple and such a straight shot for filling a potentially destructive hole.
“How To Keep Your Man” coming very soon …
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July 8, 2010
Lots to read these days about Vitamin D deficiency and how it plays an important role in immunity. However, I know of a more dangerous deficiency that is currently plaguing the human race: we are all severely lacking in Vitamin See.
I know most of you have never even heard of Vitamin See, but it is a huge, huge, huge player in our physical health. And, as you probably can guess, is at the very heart of the feminine essence.
Would you rather be seen and loved or trusted and successful? This is the defining question David Deida refers to when exploring whether one has a feminine or masculine essence. Whatever side of the fence you land (or somewhere in between,) being seen is an absolute necessity for ALL human beings and is life-blood for the feminine essence.
Vitamin See is a no-brainer for babies and children. They demand it and we pour it on, creating an obvious positive outcome. Then we become “rational adults” and suddenly our need for Vitamin See is hung in the closet. With no map for guiding us to this critical necessity, we are all left to fend for ourselves. We either become desperate from our hunger for it, fueling competition and posturing, or pretend it’s not important, leaving us drained and depressed
The great news is Vitamin See deficiency is so easily cured it’s almost silly. There are many angles to take, but here is one of my favorites: Pick someone you know and begin recognizing a few of the many ways they show up for this wild ride. Appreciate how much courage, conviction and tenacity it has taken them to negotiate life.
Or even better, start seeing yourself. Begin writing down a few of the many decisions you have made that brought you to this very moment. There have been hundreds in the past week and millions in your lifetime thus far. Decisions are difficult to make. It has been far from easy to arrive here and you did it. Let yourself reflect, bask and soak up this truth.
I know, there is so much to see.
Over the last year and a half, I’ve had the privilege of witnessing and experiencing the mind-blowing effects of Vitamin See consciously solicited and elegantly administered. Once added back into our relationship diet, you see eyes light up, lungs exhale and peace cascade down bodies. Like a flower receiving essential sunlight and water – people simply blossom into their most beautiful potential when they are truly seen.
Our culture primarily teaches our wee ones to be trusted and successful, with minimal attention toward the art of being seen. Imagine a world that takes care of this very basic human need from birth until death in a way that is upfront, honest and clean. Wow. I have the chills just imagining all of the energy that would be unleashed to create the lives we really desire.
How do you get your Vitamin See?
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March 7, 2010
