Sorry Free

I am sooooooo NOT sorry and it feels so good. After a lifetime of being sorry, I finally realized this word was coming out of my mouth WAY too much. “I am so sorry,” “sorry about that,” “sorry.” I was using this word as a phonetic gavel – “my fault,” “I’m wrong,” “my bad.” I used to pride myself on my ability to take “responsibility,” and would be bummed if I thought I was owed a “sorry.” Now I hardly say it at all and often wince when I hear people use it.

Besides expressing compassion “I am sorry your father passed away,” “sorry” is mostly used to convey that you are at fault and regretful. However, if we examine the situations we are eager to apologize for, we usually find that we did nothing wrong at all.

Listen for who is saying “sorry” and for what reason. What you will undoubtedly notice is that women say it often and many women use the word 10-30 times/day. Like my beautiful mother’s helper Ingrid. This Goddess, who many of you have heard me brag about, must have said “I’m sorry” 30 times during her first two days of working with me. I finally conveyed that my house was a sorry-free zone and she needed to say “I am so adorable” instead, which she happily did. Even when she walked in on me pumping breast milk out of both boobs. “I am so adorable” she smiled.

As I see it for us compulsive sorry sayers, saying sorry to be polite or to take “responsibility” is another yucky energy leak (a belief/behavior that drains your life-force energy versus infusing you with it.) It perpetuates dualistic thinking by fueling the illusion that there is right and wrong. This pretend world of right and wrong breeds guilt, self-doubt, and suffocates the beautiful needs and talents of our energy body.

But don’t listen to me. Check it out for yourself and have fun doing it. Make tomorrow a “sorry-free day.” Count how often you say it and/or catch yourself wanting to say it. If you really want to go for the gold, replace it with “I am so adorable” – because you truly are.